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What was your first car? Answer now and suffer the consequences!

What was your first car?

1.8k responses on the original post. 5.5k responses on the share?

Great.

Now I know what your first car was.

I also know, from your Facebook profile, what your full name is (thanks Facebook and your real name policy) where you live, (if you’ve entered it, which you probably have) who you work for and who your family members are. Some of you even have your phone number listed.

If you are female and married, I probably also know what you maiden name is if you’ve listed your mother as a family member (which you have). I also may know who your favourite bands are and where you were born. What school you went to, what university, what shops you like, what websites you go to.

Scared yet? No?

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Friendship

I love how the modern concept of making friends means adding someone to a list on some poxy website.

Last week some stranger was railing at me because I removed him/her from my “friends” list on a popular website. I had confirmed their request to add me a week previously because when they requested my friendship I’d confused them with someone I already knew, whom I assumed had lost access to their account or had to change it because they’d attracted some lame stalker due to adding random people to their profiles as “friends”. This person then sat silently on my friends list until I noticed they weren’t who I thought they were and removed them. No contact. No “Hi, thanks for adding me.” No attempt at trying to actually make “friends”. Yet on removal they adopt this offended act.

So this is what passes for “friendship” these days? No wonder the suicide rate has shot up. These people must be incredibly loney, but then aren’t we all? Since adding some of my long.term friends to Facebook they have withdrawn all other contact with me. I’ve since removed a few as they ignored my personal messages despite bombarding me on a daily basis with notifications and application requests. This phenomena is worse, I feel, than those “friends” who used to send you nothing but lame email forwards of unfunny funnies, vomit inducing prayers and “Bill Gates will give $1 to Tiny Tim for every friend you forward this to” voluntary spam.

I realise now that for me the novelty of Facebook ended quite some time ago and I continue to use it as it seems to be the only way to keep in contact with some of my so-called friends.

Should these people really matter? Normally I’d say no. Get some new friends, better friends. However online social networking sites are such a ingrained part of modern society that it’s hard to find people who have slid into this mire. Modern life is so full of tacky gimmicks and manipulative devices designed to sedate and homogenise the populace that it’s so easy to just let yourself be lead into these pens for the sake of an easy life. Though I’m not sure life gets any easy and it’s certainly not very rewarding.

I’m not going to do what I would have done in the past and remove myself from all these offending situations, avoiding and scorning the people I know within and hidng in a self-made cave for a few months feeling sorry for myself and hating the world. I just alienate people who probably don’t deserve it, make myself bitter and put on weight from comfort-eating mushrooms. However I’m getting very tired of these places and the shallow commercial relationships built there. I need to talk with people face-to face. Share blood, sweat and tears with people (HIV test results pending), go to the pub for a laugh, go for walks etc etc. Exclusively online friendships are shite. Especially if conducted solely through the medium of the social networking site. It’s not right, don’t you people see? This is no friendship and calling it such is insulting to the whole concept, not to mention unhealthy.

Phone your friends on those sites, or if you don’t like phones then save up and go and visit them. If you can’t step up their friendship level with them in this manner then perhaps you need to ask yourself if they are really friends? If you were in dire staits would they lend you a tenner ’til pay day? Would they come see you if you were grieving? Would they send a gift to your wedding? Would they show up to your funeral?

Talk to them, like real people talk. Find out who they really are. What they really like, what scares them. If they aren’t up to their level of conversation with you or ignore you… remove them. Having three great friends on your ‘friends list’ is better than 350 shallow morons you don’t even know.

There are guides giving you tips on “How to Double Your Friends List”. I’ve just told you how to halve yours. It’s better in the long run.

Friendship is important. Don’t turn it into another shallow commercial concept.

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The Rough-Shod Rambler

I do believe that a lot of problems in the world today are caused by people, discontent with the world around them, trying to change the world to suit their own ideals rather than trying to change their ideals to suit the world.

A conformist attitude? Only when you think about this in a political mindset.

You don’t like the idea of gays. You don’t like the idea of them, behind closed doors having passionate man-sex. So what do you do? Do you a) Try to come to terms with it? See the situation from a holistic view and weight it against other things and learn to accept lifestyles you don’t fully comprehend? or do you b) Raise your voice in protest against the evils of sodomy and turn a blind eye to gay-bar nailbombers content in the knowledge that the only good pervert is a dead pervert?

Sometimes it’s easier for people to try to change the world to suit their mindset that thinking that perhaps their mindset is what needs changed. No-one wants to admit they have a problem. Especially if they feel up against it. Human beings are still animals. Despite our attempts to distance ourselves from it these animal instincts flow out constantly, unchecked and often ignored. In order to understand the animal within you need to accept the animal within.

No-one wants to be a victim, this often makes people defensive. As part of the animal instinct is the instinct to prey on the vulnerable. This doesn’t so much emerge physically as socially. Of course drunken hooligans will still have the urge to jump the little guy gleefully but socially the mob will jump on those that reflect and relent. No-one wants to admit their mistakes, to admit they are wrong. Society says we should respect and regard those that admit their mistakes but the animal within means the reality is the mob. So often it’s easier to cover mistakes. Stick to outmoded ideals, or to just not even admit to ourselves that there might be anything even remotely wrong with what we think. Doubt leads to hesitation and the mob will pick up on this.

What is the solution? Admit the animal and understand it? Give into the animal? Either are options. As is carrying on denying the animal within. Which will lead to either of the first two options anyway, with less control and less awareness.

Maybe what we need to do is breed a culture where people feel they can safely admit their mistakes and not fear mobs smelling weakness. To breed out the insecurity that causes this. for society to finally decide if we are an all encompassing loving accepting culture or a tribe driven by survival of the fittest. Culture says the former, instinct says the latter. And we can’t deal with the instincts until we, as a race, admit we still have them.